Life's Little Instruction Book....

I found this in a forwarded email, liked it and hence sharing with you. This is neither a ready reckoner for all the situations in life nor a checklist, but definitely interesting and one can adapt few of the things or give a little thought in your own perspective. Here it goes;

Have a firm handshake.

Look people in the eye.

Sing in the shower.

Own a great stereo system.

If in a fight, hit first and hit hard.

Keep secrets.

Never give up on anybody. Miracles happen everyday.

Always accept an outstretched hand.

Be brave. Even if you're not, pretend to be. No one can tell the difference.

Whistle.

Avoid sarcastic remarks.

Choose your life's mate carefully. From this one decision will come 90 per cent of all your happiness or misery.

Make it a habit to do nice things for people who will never find out.

Lend only those books you never care to see again.

Never deprive someone of hope; it might be all that they have.

Give people a second chance, but not a third.

Be romantic.

Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.

Loosen up. Relax. Except for rare life-and-death matters, nothing is as important as it first seems.

Don't allow the phone to interrupt important moments. It's there for your convenience, not the caller's.

Be a good loser.

Be a good winner.

When someone hugs you, let them be the first to let go.

Be modest. A lot was accomplished before you were born.

Keep it simple.

Beware of the person who has nothing to lose.

Don't burn bridges. You'll be surprised how many times you have to cross the same river.

Live your life so that your epitaph could read, No Regrets.

Be bold and courageous. When you look back on life, you'll regret the things you didn't do more
than the one's you did.

Never waste an opportunity to tell someone you love them.

Remember no one makes it alone. Have a grateful heart and be quick to acknowledge those who
helped you.

Take charge of your attitude. Don't let someone else choose it for you.

Visit friends and relatives when they are in hospital; you need only stay a few minutes.

Begin each day with some of your favorite music.

Once in a while, take the scenic route.

Send a lot of Valentine cards. Sign them, 'Someone who thinks you're terrific.'

Answer the phone with enthusiasm and energy in your voice.

Keep a note pad and pencil on your bed-side table. Million-dollar ideas sometimes strike at 3 a.m.

Show respect for everyone who works for a living, regardless of how trivial their job.

Send your loved ones flowers. Think of a reason later.

Become someone's hero.

Marry only for love.

Count your blessings.

Compliment the meal when you're a guest in someone's home.

Wave at the children on a school bus.

Remember that 80 per cent of the success in any job is based on you ability to deal with people.

Don't expect life to be fair.

"Keep Smiling"

RTO Pune

Pune is the worst example of traffic control in the entire India. It has neither traffic rules nor people to control it. All the traffic rules are being violated and no proper system is in place.

The worse part is RTO (Traffic Control Police Department), Pune. They have tempos run by contracting agencies. Tempos run across the streets every hour to locate the two wheelers (pray) parked in non-parking areas, which is rarely marked and is known to only the RTO and the the contracting people of RTO, who lift the vehicles, put in tempo and take to a RTO vehicle dumping yard.

Poor vehicle drivers get shocked not to find their two wheeler and start running around to search for it. Somebody tells them that it has been lifted by RTO, but where have they taken it? Unknown.. Somehow they have to catch an auto rickshaw and go to this dumping yard, where these vehicle lifters will be desperately waiting for their prays.

There is no traffic police available around these vehicles and eventually you end up in talking to those guys (who look like thieves). They tell you that "your vehicle was parked in non-parking area and you need to shed off Rs. 250 to get the vehicle back". Rich guys who don't bother for 250 rupees throw the money and take the vehicles. Some people start arguing that their vehicle was parked in parking area; but then its like head bump on a rock.

They don't want to listen to you and no traffic officer is available to listen to your argument. In the end you try to negotiate for smaller amount but alas. You have to pay Rs 250 and no other option but to pay, if you want your vehicle back. And ask for the receipt, they tell "Babu (officer) has gone for lunch and receipt can be given only after 4 hours, or may be the next day". Also you may hear, "The receipt book is with the Babu on the picking vehicle". What the hell!

So you end up in frustration and pay the amount. This is happening in Pune every day and night. The RTO officers, through this money earning machine, are gathering millions of black money. Who is going to look in to this? "Ghor kaliyug aa gaya hai".

The most corrupt and rich babus in Pune are RTO officers and I am not sure to who all this black money goes. But as I hear its a big racket. Someone has to stop this corruption. But who will stop this, those who need to stop are the corrupt bureaucrats. Why will they stop it when it is their own outcome!

Oh God please save us! Its unbearable now.

Zaanse Schans

Banks of Zaan River (Old Holland)

Big Fat Beauty

Windmills

Windmill

Be Gutsy

I feel everything is possible in this world provided one has guts to make things happen.

I mean two things are desirable for bending the world as per your will, wish and desires;
1. Clarity of thoughts
2. guts to express those thoughts.

People who dont have any opinion on any matters are taken for granted by the society and they are left behind in the crowd and eventually get lost off in the la-la land. Lets make life worth and have a say in this world. one who can convince one's thoughts are qualified to be successful politicians. Though it may become an image eventually; but variety in thoughts nullify that to project a personality.

I feel girls accept the fact that they are weaker sex in the society and like the manly shoulders to rest their head on. So they look for intelligent and bold guy, can be called a smart guy. Few a guys dont even have the guts to accoust a girl and say "Hi"; then how can they expect to be accepted by girls! This may be true about most of Indians.

So next time you express dissatisfication with your boss or like a girl be sure of above two points.

Thats it!

Importance of Listening

The Almighty has given us sensory organs like eyes, ears, nose, skin and so on. The sensors are under our control and we can use them whenever we need to. But there is a difference between ears, eyes and mouth. Eyes can be shut to avoid seeing unpleasant scenes, mouth can be shut to stop talking nonsense but ears can’t be closed not to hear. Even if you put hands on ears, you still hear many things. The ears cannot be tight shut off; the simple reason is God wants us to listen to everything and everyone.

Many people don’t listen to others and don’t like getting suggestions forget about dictation. A good listener makes minimum mistakes in professional and personal life as well. Listen, listen, listen and do as per your conscience suggest you after listening to everyone.

Advantages of listening:

1. People feel respected if they are listened to;
2. Knowledge and awareness increases;
3. You are in the flow of society and system, and so chances of getting isolated are low. Not to forget “Human being is colonial by nature.”
4. Less chances of making mistakes in work;

Above points would also mark out differences between ‘hearing’ and ‘listening’.

Freedom of Thoughts

Human mind has different windows; Hidden window, dark window, open window. The behaviors and gestures are results of the active window. A window that is dominating the other windows and shouting loudly is active window.

We stop ourselves from doing many things and we miss them forever because mind says "What others shall say?", "oh god, it may make me suffer!", "How can I say (or do)like this?", "Even if it sounds good to do, I may end up in making fool of myself!". These are the obstacles in the path of growth. That's why I like the Reliance one liner, which says "Growth is Life". So with these obstacles there can not be growth and hence lifeless life is inevitable.

One needs to enlarge the Open window. By doing that one can think broad and the thoughts are global unlike confined thoughts of small thinking window. The freedom of expressions and pleasure of doing certain things can never be missed at the cost of fear. That's why I like Nike's one liner "Just Do It".

Numerology, Astrology and palmistry are considered before doing certain things, I don't say they are surreal, but they are having some logic, and is that logic really applicable to our life is a thought provoking issue. But it is interesting and entertaining.

Jhuki Jhuki Si Nazar

I love this gazal and its lyrics.

Jhuki Jhuki si nazar bekarar hai ke nahi,,,
daba daba sa sahi dil me pyar hai ke nahi...

Jhuki Jhuki si nazar...[]

Tu apne dil ki jawan dhadkanon ko ginke bata,,,
meri tarah tera dil, bekarar hai ke nahi,..
daba daba sa sahi dil me pyar hai ke nahi...

Jhuki Jhuki si nazar...[]

Woh palke jisme mohobbat jawan hoti hai,,,
us ek pal ka tujhe, intezar hai ke nahi,..
daba daba sa sahi dil me pyar hai ke nahi...

Jhuki Jhuki si nazar...[]

Teri umid pe thukra raha hun duniya ko,,,
tujhe bhi apne pe ye, eitbar hai ke nahi,..
daba daba sa sahi dil me pyar hai ke nahi...

Jhuki Jhuki si nazar...[]

Portrayal of Today's Nationalism

Rang De Basanti has been nominated as India's official entry to the Oscars.

A bunch of angry youngsters shooting the defence minister, capturing a radio station and forcibly going on air as part of their agenda to expose high level corruption is the theme of Rang De Basanti. In the film, it is Sue, the white girl, who is inspired by the freedom struggle. Her enthusiasm transforms the lives of a laidback bunch of friends, who are representatives of an Indian generation who have lost all serious interest in the nation. It has a heroic and forward looking character. The path chosen by the youth to fight against all odds was of a stream of thoughts to free India from British by Bhagat Singh, Chandrashekhar Azad and many more patriots.

Another very near contender for the Oscars was "Lage Raho Munna Bhai". Here also we had nationalist ideal, the Mahatma, writ large. Like Rang De Basanti, it becomes part of youth culture. A common and arrogant Mumbai (Munna) bhai gets paranoid illusions of the Mahatma preaching the way of Ahimsa and Satyagraha (non-violance and truth follower) to fight the odds in common life. This path itself is the other stream of thoughts to free India from British.

These two cases show how the nationalist imagination still reigns when it comes to facing the world (the Oscars) or in todays world the nation is under scrutiny? But they do have a message to everyone of us Indians.

cheers...

Sab Maya Hai

The God has appended human minds with various shades of thoughts or feelings. Like kam (lusty), krodh (anger), lobh (greed), moh (attraction)and last but not the least matsar (jealousy). These shades maketh a person and various agonies and miseries of the world.

The one who seeks the real happiness by overcoming these feelings becomes devine.Human achieves "Moksh" or "Nirvana", iff he overcomes above mentioned baricades, that make him struggle entire life. Thats the key to ramin happy forever.

I am very much diseased with Jealousy now-a-days. I feel jealous about anything and anybody. I know its hard to live that way; but I must come out of it. This can be a depressed state of mind suffering from low self-confidence. But its bad and defies my philosophy "Sab Maya Hai".

Poverty

I stopped at the traffic signal in the busiest economic square besides few four wheelers and a Mercedes, waiting for the green. Here came running a thin, half naked black kid; stood infront of the Mercedes window with small eyes, spread his hands wide, muttered few words, begged. The big fat man with bright white safari and golden bracelets, reading "Economic Times of India", never bothered to pay heed to the chap, forget coins.

Certain questions peeped into my mind,

1. Will the begging kid ever in his lifetime be like the person in car?
2. Why is there such a big difference?
3. Where are the fruits of globalization?
4. Who will lift him and many others like him?

Once upon a time, I happened to stay in a very posh township with very pleasant and rich people around there continuously for six months. I came out of township to travel by a train and what I saw on the station was miserable. I was so much away from the sorrows,miseries and grief of real Indian society!

1. Beggars everywhere,
2. Drunken poor lying on roadside,
3. Unclean and un-hygienic environment,
4. Pollution, dust and poor infrastructure.

I feel only God has to take birth to make an Ideal world.